Life as a Shoulder to Lean On: Managing the Burden of Empathy
An Ode to the Listener and Advisor
- by Julia Peirano
- 5 Min
Ever-vigilant confidante to my peers, my constant concern often leaves me frazzled. - Serving as a spell-caster for friends often brings stress upon me
Hello, Dear Reader,
I (43) frequently find myself serving as the confidant and counselor for my friends and acquaintances, a role that, at times, weighs heavily on my shoulders. As a nurse and a sensitive soul, I have a knack for empathizing with others. Yet, the emotional toil of caring for those close to me has taken its toll, with chronic back pain serving as a constant reminder of my body's struggles.
In the face of the world's troubles, I find solace in my horse's companionship or a leisurely walk with my dog. But the strain of being the ever-present shoulder to cry on is ever present.
- Empathy
- Stress
- Self-Care
Empathy's Toll on Mental Health
Struggling to manage the stress of being the constant listener and guide for friends can leave one drained. To lessen the burden, consider incorporating the following practices:
- Set Boundaries: Establishing clear limits on the time and emotional resources you're willing to provide can help forestall burnout. It's essential to know your limits and ensure you're taking care of yourself.
- Prioritize Self-Care: Engage in activities that nurture your mind, body, and spirit, such as exercise, meditation, or hobbies. Creating space for self-care keeps you centered and better equipped to support others.
- Communicate Openly: Honest conversation with friends about how you feel and your emotional capacity is essential. Let them know when you need space or time to recharge.
- Encourage Mutual Support: Cultivate relationships in which both parties support each other, fostering a balanced dynamic that doesn't leave one always giving and never receiving.
- I'm not sure if I've found the right balance between my roles as a nurse, a friend, and an empathetic listener, as the demand of constantly providing emotional support takes a toll on my mental health and physical wellbeing.
- To alleviate the stress associated with empathy and manage my health-and-wellness, I'm considering adopting practices such as exercise and mental health strategies like meditation, which might improve both my mental health and fitness-and-exercise, ultimately contributing to a more balanced life.
